Here’s a supportive, practical guide to “smallest penis support groups”—where to find community, how to get mental health support, and what to know about preferences and the (rare) communities oriented around intentional size reduction.

Concerns about size are common and can meaningfully affect self-esteem, dating confidence, and sexual satisfaction. Medical groups note that anxiety or distorted self-perception about size (sometimes called penile dysmorphic concerns) can impact quality of life; CBT-style therapy is often helpful. Uroweb+1

Anonymous online communities (peer-run)

• Reddit: r/smalldickproblems – large, active, peer-support community focused on coping, dating, body image, and practical tips. Conversations range from venting to wins, with strict rules against harassment. reddit.com
   
• General body-image/men’s mental health threads – posts about living with a micro/small penis appear across broader support subs (e.g., r/TrueOffMyChest, r/GuyCry) and can draw empathetic responses, though moderation and quality vary. reddit.com+1
   

Live, structured support (moderated)

• Body Dysmorphic Disorder Foundation – Online Support Groups (Zoom) – user-led BDD meetings 2× weekly. Helpful if worry about size dominates your thoughts or behavior, even without a formal BDD diagnosis. BDDF
   

A note on Discord & fetish-adjacent spaces

• Discord directories include servers tagged for “SPH” (small-penis-humiliation) and general “penis” chat. These are typically erotic role-play spaces—not mental-health groups—so enter only if that’s affirming for you, and use content filters. Disboard+1
   

Evidence-based options

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) targets the thought-behavior loop (checking, comparing, avoidance) and improves distress, whether the issue is BDD-like worry or general anxiety. ADAA
   
• Psychoeducation + skills: limiting measurement/“compare & despair,” graded exposure (dating, locker rooms), and body-neutral self-talk. Clinicians familiar with male body image or sexual health are ideal; ask specifically about experience with appearance anxiety.
   

When to consider medical consultation

• If you’re unsure about typical size ranges or have endocrine/erectile concerns, a urologist or endocrinologist can check hormones and provide education (and discourage risky “enlargement” schemes). The European Association of Urology’s guidance underscores that subjective “smallness” can be very distressing and is common; reassurance plus counseling helps. Uroweb
   

The best-designed study on women’s preferences used 3-D printed models and found a preference only slightly above average, with small differences between a long-term partner and a fling. This doesn’t mean “bigger is always better”—just that preferences cluster near the mean, with lots of individual variation. Communication, technique, and whole-person connection typically matter far more. PLOS+1

• Curate your feed: mute/bury pornified or mocking content; follow body-neutral creators.
   
• Micro-goals: one action per week that aligns with your values (a date, a flirt, a new hobby, a workout) rather than a size-fixation goal.
   
• Sexual skill-building: focus on pleasure skills (hands, mouth, toys, positions, communication). Many men—of every size—report better partner satisfaction through skill and responsiveness, not inches.
   
• Buddy up: use a peer group for accountability around comparison/rumination habits (e.g., “no measuring this week”). Communities like r/smalldickproblems often run informal check-ins. reddit.com
   

Preferences vary widely; the same PLOS One study shows the average preferred size is close to the population mean, which implies many people prefer smaller-than-average just as many prefer larger-than-average. In long-term contexts, the preferred size is not dramatically larger than average. Don’t let memes shape your reality. PLOS+1

A small subset of men explore intentional reduction for medical, relational, aesthetic, or identity reasons. This spans:

• Clinical routes (rare): penis reduction surgery exists for select cases (typically addressing discomfort or partner pain), offered by a few specialty clinics; it carries risks (sensation changes, function issues) and requires full informed consent. Moorgate Andrology+1
   
• Castration/“nullo” communities: a distinct body-modification identity where some pursue chemical or surgical castration or genital ablation; research documents that some men elect this voluntarily, usually for complex psychological or identity reasons. This is irreversible and high-risk; professional evaluation and ethics-level safeguards are essential. SpringerLink+1
   

Important safety note:
Self-experimentation (e.g., hormones/anti-androgens acquired without medical oversight) and DIY procedures are dangerous. If you’re having persistent urges toward harm or irreversible change, speak with a licensed clinician first; reputable sources explain what chemical castration is—and its risks. Healthline

1. Pick one community to join for peer support (e.g., r/smalldickproblems). Introduce yourself with what you’re working on (confidence, dating, skills). reddit.com
    
2. Book one conversation—therapist (CBT-leaning) or a BDD-oriented support group session this week. BDDF
    
3. Set a 4-week plan:
    
   • Week 1: purge comparison triggers; one positive social action.
      
   • Week 2: learn two partner-pleasure techniques; practice communication scripts.
      
   • Week 3: one low-stakes date or intimacy moment (with consent and clarity).
      
   • Week 4: reflect with your group/therapist; adjust goals beyond appearance.